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dealing with a blamer; finger pointing

When Your Partner Is a Blamer: 7 Tips to Stop the Blame Game

Why do people point fingers when they try to solve their relationship problems? This is how to turn your partnership around.

What usually happens when couples fight? It’s tempting to think, “It’s my partner’s fault.”

Finding fault may seem normal and natural. We do it without knowing it. But there’s a problem with faulting your partner when you disagree.

Blame gets in the way of seeing each other clearly. It blinds us to our own part in the conflict. And it makes problem solving almost impossible!

Fighting with your partner sets off strong emotions, like fury and fear of rejection. How can you calm down when your relationship is threatened? How can you explore strong emotions, without getting swept up in them?

It’s not easy, but by facing your conflict together, you can find a better way. And you will grow closer in the process.

Here are 7 steps to banning blame from your relationship:

1) Know That Blame Is Really Based In Fear

Why are people so quick to point fingers sometimes?

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