Category: Help for Relationship Trouble

 
Tips for when a partner is defensive

7 Tips When Your Partner is Defensive

Does happen to you? When you try to talk with your partner, do you think: “I can’t talk to him without him getting mad” “Why is my wife so defensive?” “My husband gets defensive when I tell him how I feel” When you’re in a relationship, you have an extraRead More

difficult conversation

How Successful Couples Talk About Relationship Problems

Are you seeing signs that unresolved issues are hurting your relationship? When you don’t know how talk about relationship problems, you’re left: Feeling shut down when he touches you, because you feel angry, put-off, resentful, rather than affectionate Fearing a bad outcome if you bring up your trouble, such asRead More

dealing with a blamer; finger pointing

When Your Partner Is a Blamer: 7 Tips to Stop the Blame Game

Why do people point fingers when they try to solve their relationship problems? This is how to turn your partnership around. What usually happens when couples fight? It’s tempting to think, “It’s my partner’s fault.” Finding fault may seem normal and natural. We do it without knowing it. But there’sRead More

Avoid contempt to stop constant arguing

How to Stop Constant Arguing In Your Relationship

Every relationship goes through rough patches. Maybe you’ve begun to question whether staying together can make up for the fighting. For some couples, the arguments end, and life returns to normal. But when you constantly feel hurt, ignored or rejected, it is natural to wonder whether there is something fundamentally wrong with your relationship. TheRead More

Love is like a safe harbor for you and your partner

Finding Safe Passage to Emotional Connection

What are we looking for in our most important relationships? It’s that feeling of a safe, dependable, steady connection with another person. It helps us stay on an even keel despite whatever is going on around us. What we’re looking for — what we are wired for — is secureRead More

emotions below the surface

What’s Below the Surface of Arguments with Your Partner?

I work with many couples who are upset that they fight all the time. They wonder why they can’t solve problems like disagreements about cleaning up the dishes, or how to parent their kids, or whether one works too much. They think that if they solve that content issue, they’llRead More

How Couples Can Stop Fighting and Grow Closer

Partners can stop fighting so much, and turn conflict into safety with a new focus on emotions Often, when counseling begins with a couple experiencing a lot of conflict, they notice after a few weeks that they are arguing less. As couples stop fighting so much and find a littleRead More

Depression support for couples

Could Depression be Wreaking Havoc with Your Relationship?

Sometimes the greatest stress in a marriage or partnership isn’t about poor communication or a loss of love and affection. The hidden issue for many couples is depression. This condition often plagues couples who come to therapy confused and distressed about changes in their relationship that they don’t understand. NeitherRead More

10 ways healthy couples fight fair

10 Healthy Ways Partners Fight Fair

10 Warnings Signs that Arguing is Hurting Your Relationship and What to Do About It As we grow up, each of us learns that there are many ways to approach an argument. We can fight — persist, badger and raise the volume — until we get our way. We canRead More

5 tips for arguing with love

5 Love-Saving Tips When Arguing With Your Partner

Arguing with your partner can really hurt. Handled one way, it can cause pain and injury. But handled another, something beautiful and tender may unfold. It depends on how you go about arguing with your partner. When an important issue raises your different views on any matter — money, parenting,Read More