How do physical touch and consensual sex help build a healthy relationship? When you are emotionally uncomfortable with someone and they touch you, what happens? You shrink from them. You may even back away. It's only human. For touch to be…
Injuries happen in all relationships. You can hurt each other even when you didn't want to. Maybe you two aren't even speaking right now, but you want to feel close again. So, how to heal a relationship after a fight? Some…
Having a partner you can talk to about anything feels wonderful. You may find yourself thinking, "This must be real love." How do you know it's true love? One day you may need comfort. Another day, you may need to rant.…
We want closeness. However, many couples try not to argue for fear that arguing will damage emotional connection. But arguments can help couples learn about their different styles of emotional attachment. Arguing isn't the problem. It's avoiding the emotions involved. You…
Scene from a Pursuer Distancer Relationship: Partner 1: I wish you would pick up your stuff in the living room. Partner 2: What? Well, I've walked the dog, paid the bills, and worked all day. I can't get to it. Partner…
Here is how Mark and Elena used to spend time together: Here are Mark and Elena now, enjoying a moment of emotional connection: What's the difference? Mark and Elena noticed a distance that wasn't there before. So they did something about…
Each of us has a basic human need for love. The need for a secure bond is hardwired in us from birth. But we are not born knowing how to express our emotional needs in words. We need to learn about meeting…
Sharing your fun side is easy in a relationship. We want to be with someone who's fun, sexy, kind and upbeat. But seeing and expressing emotional needs in a relationship can be a huge challenge. Do you feel safe sharing your…
Wonder what being grounded means? A belief is "grounded in reality." A fact is "grounded in science." What is a grounded person? Being grounded means you feel at home with yourself. You are present and at peace in your own skin.…
Do you have places you like to go, just because it feels good to be there? We thought about the places that make us smile when we visit. These are our personal choices. They don't cost anything. They aren't complicated. They…