Secure Attachment is a safety cue

How Secure Attachment Makes Relationships Work Better

Have you ever looked at a loved one’s photo and felt happy? After sharing a problem with someone who understands, did a wave of peace and calm wash over you? You might enjoy such feelings because of a special emotional bond called secure attachment. “A secure bond is…. a vitalRead More

eye contact in relationships

How Eye Contact Can Make You Feel Loved — Or Not

Eye contact in relationships has a huge impact on making you feel loved — or not. When love is new, eye contact can be spine-tingling and exhilarating. “When we gaze into each other’s eyes, we are looking at somebody who isn’t predictable. We’re reminded we don’t really know them fully,Read More

too independent for a relationship

Can You Be Too Independent For Love?

Can you be too independent? There is a danger to your partnership in keeping too much of your inner world to yourself. Let me explain with a quick story. I worked with one married couple I’ll call John and Jane. John came from London to America, where he and JaneRead More

Why putting relationship first is healthy

This is How the Happiest Couples Put Their Relationship first

Modern life puts a great deal of pressure our relationships. Does this sound like you? You struggle to balance work, family and “me” time. You scramble to keep up with loved ones, friends and colleagues. Maybe you’re juggling childcare, elder care, house care, health concerns or car problems. You wonderRead More

Imperfect parent

How You Can Be Imperfect AND be a Great Parent

A huge challenge for parents is knowing how help when children make mistakes. A parent’s support, especially when things don’t go well, fosters the self-worth and self-compassion it takes to learn from what happened. I recently watched my brother coach his kids on riding new curved walls on their skateboards. There wereRead More