How Secure Attachment Makes Relationships Work Better
Have you ever looked at a loved one’s photo and felt happy? After sharing a problem with someone who understands, did a wave of peace and calm wash over you? You might enjoy such feelings because of a special emotional bond called secure attachment. “A secure bond is…. a vitalRead More
How Eye Contact Can Make You Feel Loved — Or Not
Eye contact in relationships has a huge impact on making you feel loved — or not. When love is new, eye contact can be spine-tingling and exhilarating. “When we gaze into each other’s eyes, we are looking at somebody who isn’t predictable. We’re reminded we don’t really know them fully,Read More
Can You Be Too Independent For Love?
Can you be too independent? There is a danger to your partnership in keeping too much of your inner world to yourself. Let me explain with a quick story. I worked with one married couple I’ll call John and Jane. John came from London to America, where he and JaneRead More
This is How the Happiest Couples Put Their Relationship first
Modern life puts a great deal of pressure our relationships. Does this sound like you? You struggle to balance work, family and “me” time. You scramble to keep up with loved ones, friends and colleagues. Maybe you’re juggling childcare, elder care, house care, health concerns or car problems. You wonderRead More
How You Can Be Imperfect AND be a Great Parent
A huge challenge for parents is knowing how help when children make mistakes. A parent’s support, especially when things don’t go well, fosters the self-worth and self-compassion it takes to learn from what happened. I recently watched my brother coach his kids on riding new curved walls on their skateboards. There wereRead More
How to Save Your Parent-Child Connection from Technology
Touch, eye contact, and physical play feel good. They are the building blocks of parent-child connection. What’s more, they nurture our brains, hearts, and disease-fighting systems. They help us build secure relationships. Many parents see the value of helping children learn to use technology. They want to stay in touch,Read More
How to Boost Confidence in Kids as an Emotionally Engaged Dad
You may have heard that emotionally responsive parents are important to a child’s wellbeing. What does being a good dad look like to you? Our culture idolizes a tough man who doesn’t crack under pressure. Anger seems to be the most acceptable emotion to show. What did you see growingRead More
How Touch Works In a Loving Relationship
How do physical touch and consensual sex help build a healthy relationship? When you are emotionally uncomfortable with someone and they touch you, what happens? You shrink from them. You may even back away. It’s only human. For touch to be welcome, you need to feel safe, physically and emotionally.Read More
How to Grow Closer After an Argument: 3 Healing Steps
Injuries happen in all relationships. You can hurt each other even when you didn’t want to. Whether a broken relationship heals or follows a downward spiral depends on how you respond. Some couples can work through hurts fairly quickly. They talk about what upset them so they both understand whatRead More
How to tell if someone is emotionally available
Having a partner you can talk to about anything feels wonderful. You may find yourself thinking, “This must be real love.” How do you know it’s true love? One day you may need comfort. Another day, you may need to rant. You may need help getting a meal ready, orRead More