How to Rekindle a Marriage or Relationship: Part 2
How can you rekindle a marriage or relationship? When you think, “there’s no emotional connection,” it really hurts. It’s only human to spring into action. There’s an urge to “fix it” and attack the issue at its source. This is especially true when something important is at stake, like ourRead More
How to Bring Intimacy Back Into A Relationship: Part 1
Couples want to know what to do when the spark fades in their marriage or committed partnership. How can a couple that is struggling bring intimacy back into a relationship? Couples find themselves having little or no sex for many reasons. Some of the most common reasons romance disappears are:Read More
Why You Need to Restore Emotional Connection When You Argue
For a relationship to feel good, both partners need to feel safe in each other’s care. They need to talk through what problems come up, understand each other, and still enjoy the relationship, even if they can’t agree on every issue. That’s what secure emotional connection does. At their best,Read More
How to Manage Feelings With Perspective-Taking
The way you look at things — your perspective — has a lot to do with your mental health and happiness. Abraham Lincoln said, “Most people are as happy as they make up their minds to be.” That says something about the power of perspective-taking. But do we really haveRead More
How To Comfort Pain With Radical Acceptance
Say you’re struggling with a job, relationship or personal challenge. You’ve been stuck for a long time without relief. Part of you might start thinking: “I’m not good enough for a better job.” “I’m so messed up. I’m not worth loving.” “IRead More
This Grounding Technique Can Help You Feel In Control of Your Life
When people come into my office, often they’re highly stressed. Some are even bouncing with anxiety because too many things feel out of their control. Grounding techniques help you shift energy so you can focus on what you can control. They are upset with a situation at work or atRead More
How to Keep Love Growing in a Relationship (2019)
“Love has a kind of magic. It’s able to do amazing things.” That’s what researcher Dr. John Gottman said about great friendships and love relationships, in a TEDx talk. Social science tells us, those who enjoy healthy friendships and love also enjoy: Greater physical health Greater mental health Greater wealthRead More
How to Get a Resistant Teen Into Therapy
You may have decided to get your teen into counseling because an issue has you concerned. Signs your teen may need therapy include: Your teen’s life seems full of anxiety or stress. You’re worried about how much time they spend online or gaming. You’re fighting all the time. You mayRead More
Family Therapy: You Don’t Need a Crisis to Benefit
“Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health; safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives.” Bessel van der Kolk, MD, from The Body Keeps Score When I think about a family, I think about a place where it’s okayRead More
The Purpose of Marriage: To Secure Your Safety and Connection First
Three relationship experts share their findings about the purpose of marriage for strength, safety and belonging. Drs. John Gottman, Sue Johnson, and Stan Tatkin have studied how relationships impact each partner’s sense of wellbeing. They identified traits of healthy relationships and the struggles or weaknesses of troubled marriages in theirRead More